Our Marriage.

I have been thinking about my marriage to hubby and how it seems that things are always going so good. As you might know, that we carpool everyday (now more than ever with only 1 car) but last night we shared a wonderful ride home laughing and talking about the wonderful things that lie ahead (with our church renovations, stuff at home and just all around blessings that we know God has in store for us). When we got home and walked through the door to a not so clean house, which I realize this morning, would probably put a damper on our good moods, but we had such a good ride home that it didn't even bother us.

I know that we do not have a lot of money or the finer things in life – but we do have each other and we have what I consider to be a strong marriage. I apologize if the beginning of this blog entry comes off as somewhat boasty – but I think that everyone, regardless of what you believe or have been taught, should have a great life and a great marriage, aside from material things, of course.

Then I came across this blog, that I always check out because of her witty writing and funny afterthoughts. I hadn't checked it in a couple of days and found that she had posted about this couple and it took me to their blog.

When I got to their blog, I couldn't tear myself away. They gave such intimate details about their marriage and how it literally almost fell apart. Now they are doing a small 8 day series that I am intrigued to read about. I had to read what they had to say and boy is it ever convicting.

Hubby and I are wonderful to each other, but we seriously lack the inner workings of what the Lord has in store for our marriage. We pray for each other, but not WITH each other. We give the best to others, but sometimes not to each other. I found in reading such wonderful words from a complete stranger (WOW.. GOD is good) that our marriage can flourish in a way that it never has! Marriage is not just about the day to day, it's about the day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute! We are perfectly made for each other - to compliment, to understand and to dream big dreams that only a marriage can fulfill.

A personal story (funny) that I want to share with you (if in fact I have readers! ha!) is that every morning hubby wakes up first, takes a shower, and then wakes me up - or so he tries. I always ask for five more minutes AT LEAST 5 times! and HE GIVES THEM TO ME!!! While you may be reading that and thinking oh what a sweetheart, he lets her sleep a little more than him. Uh yeah he is a sweetheart, BUT we are late 5 times out of 10 because of that! What I need to do is wake up to his smiling 'honey, it's time to get up' and not do the 5 more minutes thing! That's 20 minutes lost not spending time awake with him!!!

If you read my blog (ever) I want to encourage you to find that wonderful foundation and secure it. Make each day a new and exciting day for each other in ways that you don't do now. If you have that 'fend for yourself' mentality at home, get up a little earlier and make him bfast AND lunch for the day with a little note that tells him how wonderful he is for providing for your family. If he is the one that takes care of the cars - why not go get his oil changed and car wash before he thinks of it and surprise him! If he goes out of his way to do something for you, don't think of it as "oh he must be hiding something or he must think he is gonna get lucky tonight" cause girls, lets face it, when guys go OUT OF THEIR WAY to do something special (whatever it may be) it probably took him a good minute to plan and follow through on it, so shouldn't he get 'lucky tonight????"

I feel that I am ultra special because we have only been married (coming on) 3 years and it is still early enough in our marriage that we may be able to avoid those dumb marriage road blocks that so many marriages suffer from.

Praise GOD!!! :)

Hasta!
adri